"Yes; courtship is the time for sowing those seeds which will grow up ten years later into domestic hatred."

"The grand problem is that of 'Unselfishness.'"

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"A woman means by Unselfishness chiefly taking trouble for others; a man means not giving trouble to others...Thus while the woman thinks doing good offices and the man of respecting other people's rights, each sex, without any obvious unreason, can and does regard the other as radically selfish."

"...mutual self-sacrifice which is at present sprouting naturally out of the enchantment, but which, when the enchantment dies away, they will not have charity enough to enable them to perform."
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"In discussing any joint action, it becomes obligatory that A should argue in favour of B's supposed wishes and against his own, while B does the opposite...with luck, they end by doing something that neither wants, while each feels a glow of self-righteousness and harbours a secret claim to preferential treatment for the unselfishness shown and a secret grudge against the other for the ease with which the sacrifice has been accpeted."

"He insists on doing 'what the others want.' They insist on doing what he wants...the contention is reversed and each side is fighting the other side's battle...but each manages to feel blameless and ill-used itself, with no more dishonesty than comes natural to a human."